Bullies are present everywhere in schools, preschools, and kindergartens and even in playgroup Singapore . But, the interesting thing to note is they do not target just anyone. They get more pleasure in torturing a kid who is a loner or an introvert.
It has been also observed that in a majority of the cases, bullies are extremely popular students in the schools. Moreover, they are usually ringleaders of the group and have a fiercely competitive streak in them. They often display dominance and aggression and are what you typically see in the political arena.
However, that is of little solace to the bully’s victims as well as their parents. According to recent research, the best way your kid can fight back is to ensure that your little one is not worth being the bully’s target,
How can you find out if your child is being bullied?
A big problem with bullying is that many kids do not share the fact that they are being bullied in a school or a preschool. They do not like to share it with anybody.
However, experts claim that if, as parents, you find your kids are unwilling to attend school all of a sudden or are reluctant to play with some of those kids they used to be with earlier, chances are that they are being bullied.
Kids who are victims of bullying can complain of stomach aches and headaches, particularly before going to school in the mornings. While the younger ones may cling to their parents more often than earlier, older ones tend to stay isolated. Experts say that any of these signs or changes in their behavior can spell out danger.
What makes your kids a target of the bullies?
Children who are more likely to become targets are usually timid and shy. They typically tend to suffer from anxiety and high levels of depression. If your kid tends to stand out distinctly from the crowd, it can be a risky proposition too. Now, those kids may stand out due to several reasons like their sexual orientation, disability, gender identity, religion, and race. Such kids are usually perceived as distinct from other kids. Experts add that such kids should be given extra coaching on ways of handling incidents related to bullying even before it begins.
But, there are other reasons of bullying apart from the aggression in the bullies or the nature of their targets. Experts note that peers have a vital part to play to encourage such behavior in kids. Though most children agree and accept that bullying is not the right thing to do, some just cannot resist the temptation to gang up against a quiet and timid kid.